Don’t Get Used. Get Used to Someone.
We live in a world addicted to the new. New matches. New kinks. New lovers. We chase novelty like it’s the cure for everything, boredom, loneliness, disconnection. And for a moment, it is. That first hit of chemistry. The rush of being wanted. The dopamine of the unknown.
But then what?
Eventually, novelty fades. The new becomes familiar. The butterflies settle down. And if we’re not careful, we confuse that with a loss of freedom or spark. So we move on, again. Only to end up right back where we started: alone, scrolling, starting over.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth: Sometimes we’re not looking for connection, we’re looking for escape. From vulnerability. From intimacy. From the risk of being seen and not chosen. Because as intoxicating as closeness is, it’s also terrifying.
Being known comes with friction.
Being loved comes with work.
Being real with someone means facing your own edges.
But that friction? It isn’t always a warning sign.
Sometimes it’s a threshold.
Not every spark is meant to burn fast and disappear. Some are meant to smolder, slow, deep, steady. And the resistance you're feeling might not be proof that it's wrong. It might be proof that it’s finally getting real.
A Different Kind of Turn On
What if the sexiest thing isn’t the chase?
What if it’s the safety to let go? The depth that builds when you stop starting over? The kind of relationship that doesn’t just light you up, but holds you steady?
That takes time.
It takes staying.
It takes choosing to get used to someone, not just get off on being wanted.
A Few Questions for Your Erotic Mind:
Where in your life are you confusing novelty with freedom?
What discomfort are you running from in your relationships?
What might happen if you stayed through the friction?
Your erotic intelligence isn’t just about what turns you on. It’s about what keeps you present. What teaches you to hold both pleasure and truth in the same breath.
So today, instead of swiping past the hard part… Stay.
Get curious. Get used to someone.
They might just surprise you.
You might surprise yourself.